Wedding Advice Requested

You may or may not know this, but I am engaged to be married in 99 days!  The big day is fast approaching and I need the advice of my Sick Chick community.

I've been on the fence over a very important issue:  The guest list.

Here is my problem.  I am considering inviting my rheumy.  I've known him longer than I've known my fiancé, and he brought me back to life when RA stripped the life right on out of me.  On my list of important men in my life, his name definitely lands somewhere in the Top 10.

I do not, however, want him to feel obligated to come (he likely won't) OR to send a gift.  In my opinion, it's more of a gesture than anything else.  Also, what if he does come!?!  I do plan to have a few cocktails, and although he's definitely given me the green light to enjoy them in moderation, I don't want to give him any reason to be concerned.  Who would I seat him with?  What would he think of my family?

I am leaning towards extending the invitation, knowing that it is highly unlikely he would come.  What do you think?

xo
Kat