Thursday, March 22, 2012

Wedding Advice Requested

You may or may not know this, but I am engaged to be married in 99 days!  The big day is fast approaching and I need the advice of my Sick Chick community.

I've been on the fence over a very important issue:  The guest list.

Here is my problem.  I am considering inviting my rheumy.  I've known him longer than I've known my fianc√©, and he brought me back to life when RA stripped the life right on out of me.  On my list of important men in my life, his name definitely lands somewhere in the Top 10.

I do not, however, want him to feel obligated to come (he likely won't) OR to send a gift.  In my opinion, it's more of a gesture than anything else.  Also, what if he does come!?!  I do plan to have a few cocktails, and although he's definitely given me the green light to enjoy them in moderation, I don't want to give him any reason to be concerned.  Who would I seat him with?  What would he think of my family?

I am leaning towards extending the invitation, knowing that it is highly unlikely he would come.  What do you think?



  1. hey kat, what did you end up deciding? did you invite your rheumy?

  2. I say go for it! I think most of the time people are touched by those things because they are out of the ordinary. It will show him how much you appreciate him, and I think that's important. :)

  3. Hi!

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    I am curious what you think I can do so that I can get the word about my services? Or any other places I may contact to be more accessible to our community? The biggest challenge I faced for the past 8-10 years was having no one to talk to you who really understood what I was going through. I am dying to fill that void for others.

    Thank you so much for all your hard work in our community!